Short post, hard message: what’s your largest source of emotional pain or anxiety today?
Familial stress? A close friend with cancer? Fear surrounding a creative project?
I don’t care what it is. Get after it.
That thing that pains you the most – that thing you’ve been avoiding – that’s the thing you need to address right now. Pain is your internal GPS. Physical pain points us to issues in our body that need attention. An appendix doesn’t hurt unless it’s about to burst. A torn muscle tells you all about it – because it needs rest to heal. Your sources of emotional discomfort are exactly what need more attention.
What is one thing you could do to begin moving the needle? If your relationship with a family member is stressed, take action. Have a frank conversation. State boundaries. Be loving – but start with loving yourself. You’ll find it extends to others if you’re loving yourself enough.
If you don’t know how to talk to someone, say that. Get vulnerable. Admit that you’re human. “I haven’t reached out because I don’t know what to say, but I want to be there for you. Avoiding you because I’m uncomfortable is unacceptable. What can I do?” Don’t keep letting your discomfort keep you from being a decent human being.
Have you always wanted to learn an instrument? Paint a picture? Write a novel? Do the first thing today. Commit to creating garbage. Play – but play like a child. It is serious business. Decide to throw all of your creations away for a month. They don’t matter. Practice matters. Doing matters.
Get out there. Right now. Do something.
Don’t be a candyass.
Get after it.