Exercise: overcoming obstacles

What do you feel you absolutely cannot do, despite a desire to? Get an index card and write your obstacle on one side, like this: “I can’t __________.” “_______ is impossible for me to attain right now.” “I don’t have enough time to __________.” “I’ve always wanted to ___________, but life gets in the way.” “_________ couldn’t happen.” “I can’t afford ________.” Now flip it over and invert the statement, like this: “I will _________.” “I will attain ___________, starting today.” “I have enough time to ________.” “I’ve always wanted to _____________ and from now on I will prioritize this Read more…

The Professional Devaluer

(Warning: strong feelings; strong language. Check your delicate sensibilities.)   Hey, quick question: What are you worth? Chances are, that gets your irrational brain going into a tailspin – especially if you’re a freelancer, creative, or some other small business owner who is doing tricky work that involves selling a piece of their heart every day. Are you overcharging?  Are your clients judging you?  What about your friends – are you the running joke in your group?  “He thinks he can bill clients $100 an hour for that?  Give me a break…” You already know what I’m going to say. Fuck your Read more…

Who is your anchor?

You have friends in similar boats all around you.  Maybe you’re moored at the yacht club, maybe you’ve dropped anchor in a pirate bay, but whatever port you choose reflects on you. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn Chances are, they’re similar to you in politics, religious beliefs, socioeconomic class, risk-taking behavior, etc.  You even have one or a few people you view as anchors – that friend who ‘keeps you grounded.’ Now, anchors are great – sometimes we all need a dose of reality.  But that ‘reality check’ Read more…

Shame: Your New Best Friend

Last week I posted this on Facebook: “First person to comment on this gets $20 if I don’t do 100 kettlebell swings at 5:30 tomorrow morning.” Of course, one of my wonderful friends volunteered (because who wouldn’t?!). I told him not to expect the $20; he told me not to expect him to be awake at 5:30, and we had a deal.  If it’s not obvious, the next morning I followed through. Why, though?  Because for two days I’d been sleeping an extra thirty minutes instead of attacking my kettlebell and the rest of my workout with the ferocity of Read more…